It’s an exciting time for the both of you and rightly so. A new relationship brings with it many joys and new surprises every day. So how does one keep it fresh and exciting even a decade down the line?
While passion and love start a new relationship, here are a few things to keep in mind so it always stays fresh.
Be comfortable Be Yourself: We often try to impress someone by going over and beyond, and sometimes even try to do things we would normally never do. While it’s all fair in the beginning, it can be a problem if you try to keep it up for too long. The most important thing is to be comfortable with how you and your partner normally are.
Keep Things Spontaneous: Not everything can be planned, and spontaneity keeps a relationship alive and on the move. Doing new and unexpected things together can help you get to know each other together. The important thing is to do spontaneous things for each other. Little surprises can certainly make her day.
Space and Independence Are Important: Sometimes spending every waking moment with each other can stir up trouble. It’s important to have time just for yourself. Your other relationships are important too – friends, family, colleagues. All too often people in new romantic relationships get too involved and start ignoring all the other important people in their lives.
Intimacy Is Always Important: A simple touch of hands, a hug, a kiss; they’re all ways to say “I love you” or “I care about you”. Sometimes you might not say too much to each other but how you behave towards each other means more.
Listen: We’re all born very different and unique, and it’s inevitable that you might have slightly different priorities or views on some issues. The important bit is to keep communicating with your partner. It’s dangerous to think you know someone completely. There will be times that you might be surprised by what your long-time love has to say. Even in a lover’s quarrel, listening is more important than trying to prove you’re right. Be fair to each other and see your relationship blossom.
Continue To Give: When any new romance starts, both people naturally give a lot of attention to each other. After a while though the attention wanes, the gifts stop, and the favours are fewer. A simple gift now and then, a special meal, or even just a foot massage, are great ways to continue giving attention to your love.
Talk About the Future: This seems like a no-brainer but some couples don’t talk about their futures with each other, their aspirations, or even how many children they want to have. As we grow older we need a sense of security, and talking about future plans with each other can provide that.